So I was reading this book a long time ago right; it was entitled The Art Of Seduction (by Robert E. Green) and in this book he outlined the various seducer traits, the victims who fall for the said seducers and last but not least the actual process of seduction. It was an engrossing read to say the least- I mean it dealt with appealing to the sub conscious, tapping into one's core psyche...exploring the psychology of the lonely. I was impressed with its depth.
I found out that my seduction style was a dandy/star/something else that I can't remember- anyways apparently my strength was my lack of gender role adaptation(i.e I come off kinda masculine) this intrigues men and helps them let their guard down- they feel like comrades and what not- but all the while there's a tangible tension because man brain or not I am still a woman(an attractive one too if you ask me).
Mkay, here's where the issue comes in; one can easily catch the opposite sex(let's be real dudes aren't that hard to attract-but they don't have an extended attention span)it's keeping them that proves hard. I mean the book easily gives you the tools to catch a man but not how to keep him enchanted. How long can you keep someone hypnotized without them coming to? Is it possible to have someone stay under your spell forever? Surely they will come upon the antidote sooner or later.
What I'm trying to say is when it comes to seduction we somehow forget ourselves in a bid to satisfy someone else's fantasies thus ignoring the real us. We paint the perfect picture- we are the immaculate image of perfection...until they fall into our trap. Now what? You've got the game, why keep using your hunting tactics? This is where your true colors start to bleed through the cracks and the "distance" starts to surface. Questions about why you changed and how you're not what they thought.....yeah mostly because they never got a chance to really meet you. You sabotage the whole thing before you even introduce yourself.
sis...u really just hit it on the head with ur views on the dynamics of seduction...and what's funny is u are the third person this year that has told me somethin about this book...but to comment on ur blog...i came to a similar realization that we as hunting creatures get so comfortable in this hunting position, or for lack of a better word, comfortable in this character that pursues off of game...we take our selves to the limit constantly to see how far we can get doin it this way that when we reach a certain point, game isnt an option; you have to be urself now...but who the hell is that? we came so far from who we are for this character that we are portrayin that we have to physically and mentally fall back to really "find urself" and know how to be that person at all times. Have u ever realized how easy things goes when u dont have to lie, exaggerate, or downplay a situation...things just go way smoother...and thats with any and every circumstance from your home, your job and your relationship. When it comes to relationships however, its a matter of finding some one who has came to this conclusion as well because your just going to get irritated with him/her not getting the retardedness(i think thats a word lol) of lyin. This goes back to the principle that i have been hearin for the longest but just now understanding " find yourself first before you go lookin for somebody else" which in my case is "find you urself first before u expect the right man to find you"...cuz yes i am a firm believer in "HE who findeth a good wife findeth a good thing" but thats a whole other story...
ReplyDeletethis is the last thing i want to say and ima get outa here...u stated that your strength was your lack of gender role adaption...i always took this to be my weakness and just recently began to see the benefits of having such a trait...
keep doin wat u doin sis...we need more like u out here
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